Are you really happy? - and other things

"Are you really happy?" "I love your life. How do you do it?" "I live vicariously through you" etc etc... These are all things that have been said to me over the years. Yes, they are lovely, but not all have been. "You can really be a b****." - said in relation to when my boundaries are being pushed and I state my feelings around that. "You're not a good friend when you say things like that" - said in relation to when asked for my opinion about something.

And then today, I came across a post shared by a friend. I have modified it in order to include those that it was excluding and hopefully it 1) helps inspire others to love the life that they are living and have been blessed with, and if not, to then change what they don't like about their lives; and 2) helps others understand how I live the life that I have been blessed with.

Some of these are easier than others, and we will each have things that speak to us stronger than others (and perhaps none will speak to you) but I feel that there is such importance in sharing of these thoughts and processes that may be of use to others.
It's all a growth process and some days are harder than others, but this post by my friend was a great reminder of the things that I like to work on.

Thank you all for continuing to be on this journey with me. I hold much love in my heart for each of you.
Besos!


To invent one’s own life and to live it according to one’s vision requires the companion qualities of imagination and courage.

Be autonomous. Seek no one’s approval and listen to our own counsel. Answer to no one. Try not to impress anyone. Let your work speak for itself. Never make excuses and rarely offer explanations for your actions. Try not to be defensive so as to not be threatened by what other people may think of you. You are in control of your own life and this is reflected in your demeanor.

Be passionate. This shows a palpable energy and enthusiasm that is contagious and beneficial to those around you. In esoteric terms, you will raise the vibration in a group situation. You will inspire others.

Continually learn and evolve.

Be authentic. The mask that you present to the outside world is the same as your innermost heart. Learn to express your emotions cleanly and healthily. What you see is what you get. Know your own truth. Do not impose your truth on others, but share your wisdom when invited to.

Take care of yourself. Do not expect others to take care of you. Treat yourself as well as you would your best friend. Be compassionate and forgiving with yourself and others. Get enough rest and give your body the right fuel – both in oxygen and in food and water. Know what you need. Feed your soul.

Be committed to healing the earth and work towards peace and understanding – whether it is on a large scale or simply within your family and closest circle of friends. Contribute to cleaning up the environment and teach the next generation to do likewise.

See your body (and the earth) as sacred, and be in tune with natural cycles. Be comfortable with your sexuality.

Learn balance and patience. Flow and ebb. Waxing and waning. Try not to stress during ebb and waning times. Use it wisely for rest, reflection, and planning.

Trust your intuition and inner knowing. Learn to tap into this source at will.

Learn to let go of the need to control the flow of the river. Discover the futility of trying too hard. Learn to ride the wave and go with the flow, to ask for and accept when required. Be flexible, fluid, and adaptable. Give up the need to control or manipulate. Do not pout or whine when you do not get your way.

Communicate your boundaries. Be gentle but firm when your boundaries are violated. Respect others’ boundaries. Ask for clarification when necessary.

Recognize and honour others. Lend your support to the work of others. Do not feel competitive or threatened by others, and understand that what is good for one is good for all and that when one shines, the light benefits all. Know how to share and be generous of spirit, but know your limitations and do not give more than what you can afford – emotionally, financially, physically, or energy-wise.

Find the natural state of joy and gratitude. Be at home with your shadow and honestly mourn your losses and explore your fears. Understand that everyone experiences pain – it is a part of life on earth. Therefore work through your own pain with courage and dignity, do not try to sidestep it, or numb it, but go through it and learn from it.

Try to learn to be comfortable with death, and learn to let go… of relationships, concepts, and material possessions that are worn out, or that no longer serve as growth.